ABOUT ME

Hi!  Cee, here...
I am a licensed religious wedding and funeral officiant of Ontario, an ordained Lay Pastoral Minister, and a volunteer of Hospice Toronto.  I've created this website with the full intention of sharing resources, thoughts and ideas that have helped me through many of my own struggles with grief. 

I think we can agree that everyone experiences grief or loss at some point in life, most often when we least expect it.  Grief seems to present itself as the most inconvenient emotion of all, with the potential to trigger multiple explosions of random feelings at any given time.  Not that I think a more scheduled grief attack would feel any better.  I highly doubt it.  Either way, it seems to me that grief is, and will always be, a very large and imperative part of a person's life journey.   When it strikes, I find that the best I can do for myself is try to find healthy ways to ease the pain, and do what I can to make my days more manageable. 

I've noticed that each instance of grief creates an energy within me that could probably move a mountain.  Initially, while the grief is tearing out my heart, I'm usually feeling way to depleted to find the will to even get up off the couch, much less move a mountain.  Hopefully, with lots of rest and self-care, I can eventually find the will to redirect that huge energy and create baby steps towards actually climbing the mountain before attempting to move it.  

How I initially react to a grief situation, really depends on what else I'm going through, at the time. It also definitely depends on the circumstances surrounding each situation, and the cause of the grief to begin with.  For instance, sudden death hits me harder than a death by natural causes.  I don't usually feel as much regret, or guilt, with a naturally caused death.  Either way, my personal past experiences are all part of the ingredients that determine my reaction to new grief.

I don't believe that one person's grief is ever worse than someone else's. To me, grief is an emotional rollercoaster that always seems to produce the same plethora of feelings and heightened emotions, regardless of the type of grief I'm going through.  

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I think we each handle grief in our own way, and in our own time.  When grief hits me, I usually don't have the mind to figure out where to even reach out for help when I need it.  With that in mind, I really hope this website will be of help for those that need it.